A thoughtful reflection tool — answer honestly about your relationship across five key dimensions. For entertainment and self-reflection purposes.
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Answer the questions to see your compatibility score.
How This Works
Five dimensions based on relationship psychology research: values alignment, conflict resolution style, shared interests, communication quality, and overall satisfaction. Scored 1-4 per dimension for a total out of 20. John Gottman's research identifies communication and conflict resolution as the strongest predictors of long-term relationship success.
Research strongly supports that compatibility is largely built through deliberate effort, not fixed at the start. The Gottman Institute's 40+ years of research shows that couples who use specific communication skills (expressing needs without criticism, taking breaks during conflict, showing appreciation daily) develop much higher compatibility over time regardless of starting point. Initial attraction and values overlap help, but long-term compatibility is a skill, not a trait.